I thought I'd repost this from my old myspace blog because it never hurts to be reminded.
Yes I am back. The Co-Captain of the world famous Love-Hater Movement is back with a vengence. No more relapses into the dead end world of irresponsible cupcaking and dealing with Lummy No Nut muthafuckas or Simpy ass mutha fuckas. I am now dedicating myself to the Hustle and vow never to traval back down the road of deception, emotionally unavailable men and drawn out break ups ever again... or at least as long as I can prevent it.
Doctrine #187 addresses a few rules of conduct in reguards to filtering potential significant others as well as leaving significant others that aren't quite significant anymore.
DO NOT EMOTIONALLY ENVOLVE YOURSELF WITH SOMEONE GETTING OUT OF A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP.
The fact of the matter is you are the rebound chick/dude. Your sole purpose is to just enjoy some fun time and savage "I'm potentially a free man/women sex." Additionally in most cases even though the person coming out of their previous relationship says they are ready to take on another relationship don't believe them. As a member of the Love Hater Movement and a responsible cupcaker you should be aware that there is time needed after a break-up to build on yourself and to be independant. You do not want to be dealing with all of their extra drama Don't be the stupid fall back girl/guy. You know damn well that if you never came along they would have sat comfortably in the situation that they do nothing but complain about.
TAKE THINGS SLOWLY
Let things happen with in there own time. We (especially females) have a tendency to want to know where things are going and how they will end up. So that we may plan accordingly. But good relationships do not sprout over night or from a few great nights of sex. They take work and good communication as well as compromise. Either you two work through it together or give up and move on. You can't force a relationship.
3a) HAVE A LOW TOLERANCE FOR FLAKEY, SIMPY, MR.LUMMYNONUT ASS MUTHA FUCKAS (this one is for the ladies)
Ladies you do not have to put up with dudes that constantly renig on promises, or dudes that stunt your growth as an individual. As well as dudes that are emotionally unavailable. You deserve to be with someone that loves you and admires you for who you are and what you do. You deserve to be told that you are beautiful and that you are missed. You don't have to deal with tantrums and guys who try to make you feel bad for things that they did wrong but you seem to apologize for. Stay confident and successful in what you do and don't forget that these dudes are replacable.
3b) >p? HAVE A LOW TOLORANCE FOR NEEDY AND DRAMA FILLED FEMALES (fellas I didn't forget about you)
Fellas do not tolorate the beezy who is doing nothing but causeing you drama. Do not deal with a female that tries to check you in front of your boys or friends. If she doesn't show you the same resepect that you show her cut her loose.
And for both sexes- All talk no action benefits no one! Their is such thing as too little to late so be there when it counts and follow through with what you promise. Your word is your bond remember that. Because, once the trust is gone so is the respect, and from there in only decends further down hill.
IF/WHEN THINGS FALL APART LET IT GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Make it a clean break. Do not let your break up drag on for months. You already know it's not going to work. For the most part dealing with someone you had feelings for after the official break up only leads to more resentment and additional stakes through the heart. Just let it go. Let time heal and maybe you can be friends later. Don't continously bring up past heartaches just let it go and move on. Dealing with eachother when you know that you don't want to be with eachother is a useless waste of time and is both sadistic and self destructive.
This concludes Doctrine #187
* This doctrine is subject to change